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The Difficulty with Forgiving

Forgiveness can quite possibly be one the hardest things that we as humans have to do in our lives — impossible even.
How do you forgive the spouse that had an affair? The person who killed half your family in a drunk driving accident? The company you invested your life into, which laid you off three months short of retirement?
Then, there are the not-so-horrific, but still painful incidents that happen: The best friend you caught stabbing you in the back. The person who claimed your idea in the project meeting at work. Your parents, who belittle you and put you down every time they talk to you. The list goes on.
I think forgiveness is hard for us because we don’t fully understand it. I didn’t anyways, for many years. To me, forgiving was like saying it was ok — and it was far from ok! However, that is not what forgiveness is, as we’ll see in a moment.
I once heard that in ancient Rome, those who murdered were punished with having the corpse of their victim tied onto their back, where it remained until it had rotted off. Refusing to forgive the person who hurt you is like carrying a decaying, rotting corpse on your back.
Why should we forgive in the first place? Do we even gain anything from it?
In my school days, every morning we used to say a prayer -
"Our Father, who art in Heaven
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And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive, those who trespass against us,
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Amen "

So now do you get the bottom line? If we cannot forgive others, God does not forgives us either.

What is forgiveness?
It is not saying that what was done was ok. To forgive is not to say to someone, "It’s ok. What you did doesn’t matter." It’s not ok! They ruined your life, or at least they made it very difficult, and it’s ok to say that.
Forgiveness is saying, "What you did was not ok and my life has suffered as a result, but I am not going to be the one to attempt to make you pay for what you have done."

"I will permit no man to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate him."

Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you may always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.


What are the benefits of forgiving someone?
Letting go of grudges and bitterness makes way for compassion, kindness and peace. Forgiveness can lead to:
1. Healthier relationships
2. Greater spiritual and psychological well-being
3. Less stress and hostility
4. Lower blood pressure
5. Fewer symptoms of depression, anxiety and chronic pain
6. Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse


Thankfully, a lot of the Exocets in my life have dimmed with the mists of time. And the ones that I will get even with weren't people that ever mattered much to me anyway. And I hope that thought hurts them just a little!
Just to end with, they say - "The weak can never forgive. It is an attribute of the strong."

And to those of you who still find it difficult to reason out forgiveness, I have another quote - "Always forgive your enemies, nothing annoys them so much."